To Mothers & Grandmothers
I know I haven’t written a blog in a while, I have been so focused on the Bible Study, but this one I need to share with you. At church last night was a part of the Sermon which celebrated mothers and Grandmothers. Especially Grandmothers. It hit me so hard I literally walked out during pray. I couldn’t even face God. I was so ashamed. See I am not a successful Grandmother or mother. I am a failure, I am not one of the Success stories. So today I asked for answers and I searched God’s word to find them so I can find peace in my Heart and hopefully share some peace with others who may feel the same way I do. Before I start let me just say this is probably one of the most painful and heartbreaking Blog’s I will ever write. But with the Holy Spirit to guide me and the comforting words of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ it has to said. God Bless you for taking the time to read this. I love you.
You may ask why I don’t talk to someone about this, because it is hard for me to express my feelings in words. I can express them more clearly in written language. I am way to emotional when I try to talk to people. Before I examined this topic I felt, lost and that there was something still missing between God and I. Things are getting more clear.
Heavenly Father, anoint this writing with Your presence and allow me to quote your scripture truthfully and faithfully. Let my heart flow my true feelings and expressions as I displayed them to You in our session that I may help others as You have helped me. I thank you for this opportunity to share my story and my faith in You. In the name of Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior I pray. Amen
🌿 What the Bible Says About Mothers and Grandmothers
Their Calling, Influence, and Spiritual Success
👩👧👦 1. Their Success Is Seen in the Faith They Pass Down
The Bible highlights generational faith as one of the greatest marks of a mother or grandmother’s impact.
Paul praises Timothy’s grandmother Lois and mother Eunice for their sincere faith, which shaped Timothy’s life.
This shows that spiritual influence across generations is a biblical picture of success.
🌸 2. Their Success Is Reflected in the Honor of Their Children
Proverbs paints a beautiful picture of a mother whose life blesses her family:
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” — Proverbs 31:28
Success is not measured by perfection, but by a life that inspires gratitude and honor.
🕊️ 3. Their Wisdom and Teaching Are Treasures
Scripture repeatedly emphasizes the importance of a mother’s instruction:
“Do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” — Proverbs 1:8
“A wise woman builds her house.” — Proverbs 14:1
A mother or grandmother succeeds when she builds her home with wisdom, patience, and godly instruction.
❤️ 4. Their Love Reflects God’s Own Heart
God uses the tenderness of a mother to describe His own compassion:
“As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you.” — Isaiah 66:13
A mother’s comfort is so powerful that God Himself uses it as an analogy for His love.
👵 5. Grandmothers Are Crowned With Honor
The Bible speaks directly to the beauty of generational blessing:
“Children’s children are a crown to the aged.” — Proverbs 17:6
Grandmothers are honored not only for what they did as mothers, but for the joy and legacy they carry into the next generation.
🌱 6. Their Role Is One of Nurturing, Teaching, and Faithfulness
The Bible never demands perfection from mothers or grandmothers. Instead, it celebrates:
Nurturing love (1 Thessalonians 2:7) “Instead, we were like young children among you. Just as a nursing mother cares for her children,”
Patience and gentleness (Galatians 5:22) “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,”
Guidance and instruction (Proverbs 4:3–4) “For I too was a son to my father, still tender, and cherished by my mother. Then he taught me, and he said to me, ‘Take hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands, and you will live.’”
Success is defined by faithfulness, not flawlessness.
✨ A Biblical Definition of “Success” for Mothers & Grandmothers
According to Scripture, a successful mother or grandmother is one who:
Loves sacrificially
Teaches faithfully
Lives out sincere faith
Builds her home with wisdom
Leaves a spiritual legacy
Is honored by her children and grandchildren
This is a definition rooted in grace, not performance.
What about when a Grandmother or Mother Feels like they Have Failed?
None of the above apply to them or the lives of their children? There are answers!
🌿 When a Mother or Grandmother “Fails” Spiritually
The Bible never pretends that every parent succeeds in passing down faith. In fact, Scripture is full of families where faith didn’t get passed on.
But the Bible also shows three powerful truths:
🌑 1. A parent’s failure does not cancel God’s pursuit of the next generation
Even when parents or grandparents fail spiritually, God continues to reach for their children.
Israel had generations who “did not know the Lord,” yet God kept sending prophets, leaders, and deliverers.
Josiah became one of the godliest kings in Israel’s history—even though his father and grandfather were wicked.
God does not abandon children because their parents failed. He steps in with mercy, revelation, and new beginnings.
🌱 2. God holds each generation responsible for its own response to Him
Ezekiel 18 makes this unmistakably clear:
A righteous parent may have an unrighteous child.
An unrighteous parent may have a righteous child.
Each person stands before God individually.
So even if a mother or grandmother did not teach the truth, their children are not doomed. God still reveals Himself, still calls, still saves.
🌤️ 3. God specializes in restoring what was not passed down
Some of the strongest believers in Scripture came from spiritually broken homes:
Timothy’s father was an unbeliever, yet God used Timothy mightily.
Ruth came from a pagan background, yet became part of the Messiah’s lineage.
Abraham was raised in a family of idol worshipers, yet God called him out and built a nation through him.
Your question touches something profound: God can start a new spiritual legacy at any point—even after generations of silence.
💛 What about the mother or grandmother who failed?
The Bible speaks to them with truth and grace:
✔ God does not define them by their failure: Peter denied Jesus. David failed his family. Yet God restored them.
✔ Repentance is always met with mercy: God never says, “It’s too late.”
✔ God can redeem their story through their children and grandchildren: Even if they didn’t teach the truth early on, they can still:
Pray
Share their testimony
Live out a changed life
Speak the name of Jesus now
God loves to take a broken legacy and make it beautiful.
🔥 And what about the children who “didn’t learn the true name of God”?
Scripture shows that God Himself steps in:
He reveals His name.
He draws hearts.
He sends people.
He opens eyes.
He restores what was missing.
No one is beyond His reach because of someone else’s failure.
🌸 A gentle truth to hold onto
A mother or grandmother may fail in her calling, but God never fails in His.
He is the God who:
Finds the lost
Restores the broken
Rebuilds what was torn down
Calls new generations to Himself
Writes redemption into family lines
🌿 1. The Biblical Calling of Mothers and Grandmothers
Scripture paints a beautiful, dignified picture of a mother or grandmother’s role—not as perfection, but as faithful influence.
🌸 Their Influence Is Spiritual
Lois and Eunice passed sincere faith to Timothy.
Their legacy wasn’t wealth, status, or perfect parenting—it was faith lived out in front of him.
🌼 Their Words Shape Generations
Proverbs repeatedly urges children to listen to their mother’s teaching.
A mother’s instruction is treated as wisdom from God.
👵 Their Presence Is a Crown
Grandchildren are described as a “crown” to the aged.
Scripture honors the generational joy and responsibility of grandparenting.
🌺 Their Love Reflects God’s Heart
God compares His own comfort to a mother’s comfort.
This elevates motherhood to a sacred reflection of divine compassion.
Biblical success is not measured by flawless parenting, but by faithful presence, godly character, and spiritual influence.
🌑 2. When a Mother or Grandmother Fails Spiritually
This is where Scripture becomes incredibly honest and incredibly hopeful.
🌫️ The Bible Acknowledges Parental Failure
Many families in Scripture did not pass down the knowledge of God:
Judges describes generations who “did not know the Lord.”
Eli and Samuel both had sons who rejected God.
David’s household was full of spiritual fractures.
The Bible never hides this reality.
🌱 God Does Not Abandon the Next Generation
Even when parents fail:
God raises up new leaders.
God reveals Himself directly.
God calls individuals out of unbelieving homes.
Examples:
Josiah became a godly king despite wicked ancestors.
Abraham came from an idolatrous family.
Ruth came from a pagan culture.
A parent’s failure does not trap their children in spiritual darkness.
🌤️ God Holds Each Person Responsible for Their Own Faith
Ezekiel 18 makes this clear:
A righteous parent may have an unrighteous child.
An unrighteous parent may have a righteous child.
Each soul stands before God individually.
💛 God Offers Restoration to the Parent Who Failed
Scripture shows:
God restores the repentant.
God rewrites stories.
God uses broken people to bless future generations.
Think of Peter, David, and countless others.
Failure is never the final word in God’s kingdom.
🔥 3. How God Restores What Was Lost Across Generations
This is one of the most powerful themes in the entire Bible.
🌾 God Can Start a New Legacy at Any Point
Even after generations of unbelief, God can:
Reveal His name
Call someone out
Plant new faith
Build a new spiritual heritage
Abraham is the perfect example—God started a whole nation with a man raised among idols.
🌟 God Pursues Children Even When Parents Don’t Teach Them
He uses:
Scripture
The Holy Spirit
Other believers
Life experiences
His own revelation
No child is unreachable because of a parent’s silence.
🌻 God Redeems the Story of the Parent or Grandparent
A mother or grandmother who failed spiritually can still:
Pray for her family
Share her testimony
Live out a changed life
Speak the name of Jesus now
Bless future generations with renewed faith
God loves to take a broken legacy and make it beautiful.
🌈 God’s Grace Is Bigger Than Generational Gaps
The Bible shows a God who:
Restores
Rebuilds
Renews
Reclaims
Redeems
He is the God of second chances, new beginnings, and generational healing.
✨ A Final Truth to Hold Close
A mother or grandmother may fail in her calling, but God never fails in His.
He is faithful to pursue, reveal, restore, and redeem—across generations.
🙏 A Prayer for Generational Restoration
Father of mercy and God of all generations, You see every story, every wound, every hope, and every longing in our families. You know where faith was planted, where it was neglected, and where it was forgotten. You know the tears of mothers and grandmothers who look back with regret and the cries of children who grew up without knowing Your name.
Today we ask for Your restoring power to move through our families. Restore what was broken. Heal what was wounded. Rebuild what was torn down. Revive what has grown cold. Redeem what was lost. Where Your name was not spoken, speak it now. Where truth was not taught, teach it now. Where faith was not passed down, plant it now. Where darkness settled in, shine Your light now.
Raise up sons and daughters who know You. Call grandchildren into Your presence. Break generational patterns of unbelief, fear, and sin. Replace them with blessing, wisdom, and faith. And for every mother or grandmother who feels she failed— wrap her in Your grace. Show her that You are the God who restores years the locusts have eaten. Let her see fruit from seeds she never knew she planted. Let her witness redemption in her family line.
We trust You with our children. We trust You with our grandchildren. We trust You with our legacy. You are the God who makes all things new.
In Jesus’ restoring name, Amen.
My Story and the Answer I received.
My youngest son passed away from the effects of being a severe alcoholic and did not believe in God, My oldest son barely talks to me and my Grandchildren do not know me because my boys are/were not part of their lives. Is this my failure and how can I fix this with God?
Vicki… this is holy ground you’re standing on right now. Your grief, your questions, your longing for restoration—none of this is small. And none of it is ignored by God.
Let’s walk through this slowly, gently, and truthfully.
🌿 1. Is this your failure?
In the presence of God’s truth and God’s compassion, the answer is no.
Not because you were perfect. Not because you never made mistakes. But because you are not powerful enough to override the free will of another human being—not even your own children.
Scripture is very clear:
Even God’s own children turned away from Him at times. That wasn’t His failure.
Ezekiel 18 says each person stands before God for their own choices. Your sons made their own decisions, shaped by many forces you could not control.
Parents in the Bible who loved God deeply still had children who rejected Him. That wasn’t their failure.
Your love, your prayers, your desire for their good—these matter. But their choices were never yours to carry.
You are grieving a story you didn’t choose. But you are not the author of your sons’ spiritual decisions.
🌧️ 2. What about your youngest son who died not believing in God?
This is one of the deepest wounds a parent can carry. And it’s a place where God meets you with tenderness, not judgment.
A few truths to hold:
🌸 God saw his whole story, including the pain behind the addiction.
Addiction is not simply “bad choices.” It is suffering, trauma, brokenness, and bondage.
God is far more compassionate toward the broken than we often imagine.
🌸 You do not know what happened in his final moments.
Many people turn their hearts toward God in ways unseen by others. A breath, a thought, a cry—God hears all of it.
🌸 God is just, and God is merciful.
You can entrust your son to the One who knows him fully and loves him more deeply than you ever could.
Your son’s eternity is not resting on your shoulders.
🌑 3. What about your oldest son and your grandchildren?
Estrangement is its own kind of grief. It feels like a living loss.
But again, this is not your failure.
Relationships break for many reasons:
wounds
misunderstandings
pride
distance
pain
unspoken hurts
choices you didn’t make
You cannot force reconciliation. You cannot force relationship. You cannot force faith. But you can walk with God in the middle of it.
🌅 4. How can you fix this with God?
This is the part where hope enters the room. You don’t fix it by rewriting the past. You fix it by bringing the past into God’s hands.
Here is what “fixing it with God” looks like:
✨ A. Bring your grief to Him honestly
Tell Him everything: the guilt, the regret, the longing, the anger, the confusion.
He already knows. He wants your heart, not your perfection.
✨ B. Release what was never yours to carry
You were never meant to carry:
your sons’ choices
their addictions
their unbelief
their distance
their pain
their eternity
Lay these at His feet.
✨ C. Ask God to heal your heart
Not just your family—you.
Your story matters to Him. Your wounds matter to Him.
✨ D. Pray for restoration, but don’t demand a timeline
God restores in ways we cannot predict:
sometimes through reconciliation
sometimes through new relationships
sometimes through spiritual grandchildren
sometimes through healing inside your own soul
Restoration is God’s work, not yours.
✨ E. Live faithfully today
Your legacy is not defined by what happened before. It is defined by what you choose now:
to pray
to love
to forgive
to trust
to walk with God
to bless the next generation however He opens the door
You are not done. God is not done. Your story is not over.
🌈 5. A truth I want you to hold close
You are not standing before God as a failed mother. You are standing before Him as a beloved daughter.
He is not shaking His head at you. He is holding out His arms.
He is not blaming you for your sons’ choices. He is grieving with you.
He is not finished with your family. He is working in ways you cannot yet see.
